What Women Hate

When a guy is really enamored with a woman, they often find that they are more willing to be a little different, make a few sacrifices that don’t really coincide with who they really are, and are mostly in the deal to get laid as the guy who she believes he is. Yet for every insincere act there is an accompanying price. It can be so easy to convince yourself that you’re happy in the beginning, that these small changes are nothing more than pay acting, role playing, or a continuing effort to give her what she really wants. Yet all that insincerity turns around to bite you sooner or later.

The most insincere guys in the world never make beyond a few bounces around the bedroom with any one woman. It just doesn’t stick. After awhile, the lies, the pretending, and the cliché building intentions get old. In some instances, men end up showing their real self and lose the woman. What makes it so ironically sad is that she probably would have gone for him the way he really was.

Using insincerity to woo women means that sooner or later, you and she need to start the process over once again. All that anxiety ridden “will she like me” business has to go through a second trial, only now she doesn’t trust you. Once she knows that you were faking it, she isn’t flattered, but feels used and duped and stupid. While wants that?

Sincere relationships start with a basic understanding. Each party understands that you are entering into a process of getting to know each other, working out differences, and testing the waters for longevity. Insincere relationships almost never work out because sooner or later she is going to find out that you started the relationship on fraudulent terms. We have all seen the B rated movies where the guy pretends to be someone he isn’t only to accidentally fall in love with the girl he was pretending to be with. There’s a big chaotic scene where he tries to explain himself, she blows him off, he’s miserable, and in the end she forgives him and they start over. Get out of the movie, guy. It isn’t like that at all. Women don’t like to be lied to. If you’re going to lie to them about who you are, then chances are pretty good that you are going to lie to them about everything else.

Even if your intentions aren’t all that serious and you simply want a few good dates, someone to join you for some fun activities, and the luxury of knowing that you are sleeping with someone disease free, you are limiting the scope of the relationship and the possibilities that it could bring if you are not sincere. You might not expect to fall head over heels for her or you might think that you’re just not ready for commitment. What happens when things change and suddenly you realize that the woman you’re now spending every day with is the woman you want to spend forever with and she is about to find out that you’re a liar? It happens. And when it does it is really rather messy. Why go there and make things so unattractive for everyone involved?

When you base a relationship on a foolish notion, you are telling yourself, and her, that you aren’t worthy. It’s a slam on you. If you want a relationship of any type, even casual, don’t you want a relationship that allows you the freedom to be acceptable and one that acknowledges that you are a decent human being? Lying undermines your own value. It is time consuming and exhausting. And just when you think you have it in the bag, you blow it and once again you’re alone.

Some guys really go for play acting, role playing, and driving home as anew guy on a regular basis. While their choice is theirs and they may claim to be very happy with it, what they aren’t doing is driving home with any woman who will be accompanying them regularly. Instead, they have already doomed the relationship to a one night stand (which can be a very exciting time to play act) or a two or three times around the bedroom situation. It isn’t becoming to insult a woman that way, and it sure doesn’t lead to life long happiness with your partner. Eventually, you might even forget who you really are and struggle to find you again.

I guess I have always taken a different approach. I figure that if a woman wants to be with me, whether for a night or for life, then she should want to be with me as I am. I don’t want to think that being someone else could be more attractive than who I am. Is it self delusion? I doubt it. Since being me, a complete me, has attracted more women for more reasons than any persona or faked person ever did. You gotta give women a little credit as they usually can tell when a guy is being ingenuine. In fact, many women can pick the guys in the room who aren’t being themselves just by the way they carry their body or gesture with their hands. It’s a scary and perfectly freaky talent that women have, but I have witnessed it with my own two eyes.

Women can be remarkably forgiving when they find out that you aren’t so perfect and that you have a little roughness around your edges. It’s a beautiful thing. What women can’t forgive is being used, being lied to, and being involved with someone who can’t “man up” enough to shoot it straight.

Don’t be afraid of you and women will be more easily opened up for you. Take that any way you choose. Women have an innate sense of being able to love in a very nurturing and complete way that makes a man feel big, strong, and full of life. It’s worth taking the time to get to know yourself so that you can then take the time to let a good woman get to know you in return.

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Online Dating: Finding Love Via The Web

Finding a partner with whom you want to spend your life with is something many people worry about. The longer a person goes without their special someone, the more anxious they get that Cupid and Fate isn’t going to find that person for us.

A lot of people fret about where they might find their ideal partner and there are generally three main places to find them – social events, in daily life or through a friend. Many find their dream girl on a night out but this thought scares some – do you really give out the best first impression you could after a few drinks? The work commute often puts you in close proximity to that cute someone you've had your eye on for a while – but do you really feel confident enough, that early in the morning, in front of all those other people, to charm someone like him or her? Perhaps your friend knows someone who would be ideal for you – but how much do you trust their judgment?

Once you’ve spotted the object of your affection and plucked up the courage to speak to them, things unfortunately don’t always go smoothly. The biggest obstacle is that they may, unsurprisingly, already be in a happy relationship. Dating sites on the other hand are filled with people looking for a partner.

Long gone are the days when online dating site was seen as a last resort. Today online dating sites are filled with stunners in your age range and who live nearby.

Getting to know a little about someone online can give you the confidence to speak more fluently when you do meet in person and will help you avoid that first date going wrong because of a clear mismatch of interests or no background knowledge of each other.

The idea of running the rule over a potential partner is not a new one. In 16th century Japan, in a courting ritual known as Omiai, participants hired a matchmaker to provide resumes and pictures of potential spouses before, hopefully, arranging a formal meeting. The plan then was to ascertain whether or not after a few dates the couple would decide they were right for each other and so plan to live the rest of their lives together. Of course, this method wasn’t foolproof, but much like online dating today, it greatly increased the participants’ chance of finding a significant other.

Remember, that one person’s David Dimbelby is another’s David Beckham; it may even be said that there’s someone for everyone, online. Furthermore, the beauty of meeting someone online for the first time is that if you feel that they are not right for you then that’s fine; you can simply move on. Also, apply the same attitude with dating online as you would from offline by staying sensible on your dates – always meeting in a public place and letting someone know where you’re going can never be stressed strongly enough.

Overall, online dating can be a lot of fun, can give you a bit of confidence and, if you’re really lucky, can help you find your one true love.

Isla Campbell writes for a digital marketing agency. This article has been commissioned by a client of said agency. This article is not designed to promote, but should be considered professional content.

How to Meet Women

If you are single and you want to find out how to meet women, here is some dating advice that will be of interest to you. It may not feel like it at the moment, but the world is full of single women and they're searching for a man just like you. Whether you are at work, at the supermarket or walking down your own street, you are surrounded by attractive ladies who would love to get your attention.

So why do you never seem to meet women?

For many of us, we are our own worst dating enemies. Our comfortable routines prevent us from meeting anyone new and our fear of failure stops us from taking any chances. Tackle these two issues and you can open yourself up to endless new opportunities.

New Places = New Faces

When was the last time you went somewhere unfamiliar? It's all too easy to fall into social habits, meeting your friends at the same time and same place you always do. But if that time and place never lead to you meeting any new women, shake up the routine and go somewhere different.

Think about the sort of women you might like to meet and where they would spend their time. By visiting the sorts of bars they would enjoy, joining local clubs they may be members of or taking up an evening class in something which could interest them you will ensure that you are perfectly placed to meet somebody new.

Get Up to Date

If you've never tried online dating, ask yourself what's stopping you. Internet dating is now one of the most popular and effective ways of meeting potential partners. Websites can put you in touch with many more women than you could ever meet in day to day life and you have the added benefit of knowing that all of them are single and available.

Internet dating has long since lost its stigma. If you are serious about wanting to meet women, there's no quicker or simpler way of getting yourself back in the game.

If you're the kind of guy who gets tongue tied around gorgeous girls, an evening of speed dating may not sound like your idea of fun, but give it a try. You may not meet that special someone the first time you sign up, but will certainly gain greater confidence in your ability to make conversation.

Invite Meddling

Don't be afraid to let people know you're available. Women love to matchmake; if the girls at your workplace find out that you're single they'll soon be competing to set you up with their friends. Making it known that you're looking for dates doesn't have to be dramatic. If you're not comfortable discussing your personal life with everyone, make a joke out of how few single women you seem to meet.

Accept all invitations. Parties and informal dinners are ideal places to meet women and there's no better recommendation than having a mutual friend eagerly introduce you. Blind dates may be more intimidating, but if you don't try you won't succeed. Take a chance and you may find yourself sharing dinner with the woman of your dreams.

Take Chances

When we're lonely or unhappy it's all too easy to believe that life will always be this way. In fact, the world is full of possibilities. You just have to learn to look for them.

If your daily life isn't bringing you dates, it's time to make some changes. Take a chance. Try something new. Be friendly and open with everyone, single or settled, because you just never know who has your ideal woman's name in their address book.

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